16 Negative things to avoid doing in Marriage to avoid Divorce and to save your marriage.
In this article, I will be teaching you on 16 negative things you must avoid in marriage to avoid losing your home. Feel kind to read the entire article because it will help you a lot and also don’t forget to share this article to others on your different social platforms because you might save someone’s home unknowingly.
1 ALLOWING YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS TO CATER FOR YOUR HUSBAND
It is a very stupid thing to do, committing your husband into the hands of your beautiful and very attractive friends. “My dear friends, please be my eye as I travel for this one week, help take care of my husband and my little kids.”
By the time you are back from your one week tour, your friend must have helped you by sleeping with your husband and expecting a new baby as a continuation from where you stopped. If possible she might have eloped with your husband leaving your children all alone.
2 YOUR HUSBAND STRUGGLES WITH YOU REGULARLY TO HAVE SEX
You are highly spiritual; You are a career lady; You are a highly religious woman and you feel sexy in marriage should come secondary, you deny your husband your body regularly so that he is sexually starved and intimacy gradually vanishes. His secretary, colleagues, and girls in the church are there to take over.
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You have padlocked your body and you can not expect him not to lust after others, his mind will drift from you to them. On no circumstance should a woman deny her husband sex except only in agreement.
3 REFUSING TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY AND LOOKS BECAUSE YOU ARE NOW MARRIED
He married you because you were slim, sexy looking and trendy. Now you are have become obsessed, dirty looking and shabbily dressed. Don’t ever have that mindset; I’m married I can now relax, after all, who is looking at me again? if that is your thinking you are already cooking trouble for your self because it is among the negative things women do in marriage. Women take care of your self.
It is the mistake most careless women do. For your information, in the mind of your husband, he compares you with those elegant ladies out there. So be careful.
4 COMMITTING YOUR HUSBAND IN THE HANDS OF YOUR MAID
Yes!!! This is among the most negative things women do in marriage. Your maid does everything in the house, she cooks, cleans the house, cares for the children and your husband. She does most things for your husband, cleans your husband’s bedroom, washes the bedspread, she serves food on the table, etc.
You suddenly become lazy since the arrival of the maid. All you do is to shout and give orders and commands. Not bad to issue orders and commands. But one day your husband begins to admire your maid’s efforts and contributions to the domestic services.
And one day also your husband will begin to desire some personal services from your maid because she is a very wonderful maid who does everything and cares for all. In fact my dear sister that maid won’t struggle to snatch your husband from you because you are the one who graciously gave her to him.
5 DARING YOUR HUSBAND TO BEAT YOU
This is one stupid thing some women do to their husbands. You block the doorway and lock up everywhere then dare him to beat you up and see what will happen. A lot of women have done this and end up regretting it.
6 ENGAGING A HOUSEMAID THAT IS MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN YOU
Engaging in employment a housemaid more beautiful than you is a major technical and negative things women do in marriage with can lead to divorce.
Be wise when getting a maid for employment, because they act dumb-like to you for the time being but when your husband starts sleeping with them you will be shocked they are more agile and vibrant than you when they start fighting you.
This is the only time that you come to realize that you have used your money to employ a rival for yourself.
7 NEGLECTING TO COMMIT YOUR FAMILY INTO THE HANDS OF GOD
No woman can succeed if she fails to commit God Into the affairs of her family. Don’t ever make the mistake of thinking that you are in charge of your husband and marriage and that you can handle any situation that arises.
Satan fights marriages and his ultimate desire is to enter Into marriages, destroy and tie them apart. So, be prayerful and hand over your family to God daily. May you never Labour in vain and others reap where you have sown.
8 DON’T DARE YOUR HUSBAND TO SLEEP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN
A very big mistake you will make is to dare your husband to sleep with another woman whether serious or joke. If you try it, you may live to regret your action all your life.
9 CONTINUING TO LIVE IN THE ANALOG WHILE YOUR HUSBAND IS OPERATING IN THE DIGITAL
Your husband is every day increasing in knowledge in this 21st century and you are still backward contributing nothing.
Your husband is dressing like a guy with jeans and face cap, you are still celebrating the fact that you are married to a yuppie man. Your husband is on the Internet, Twitter, Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram, Skype, etc, the only thing you know about is the Nokia torch phone only receiving and making calls. Your husband is talking about the stock market; you only talk about tomatoes and pepper market.
He talks about forex; you are talking about fruits and vegetables only. He will definitely see you so backward, local and not fit for him any longer. Please seat up and upgrade quickly.
10 DON’T COMPARE YOUR HUSBAND WITH ANOTHER WOMAN’S HUSBAND
One thing you should understand about life is that destinies are not the same. It will mount to foolishness to start comparing your husband with another woman’s husband. Nagging at your husband that he hasn’t bought this or that for you while the other woman’s husband buys for her everything she needs.
You should bear in mind that all fingers are not equal. Don’t glue him to commit a crime in order to satisfy you. And mind you what you hear or see about people outside may not actually be the true position of things inside. You may be surprised to find out that your own home is far better than theirs.
11 EMPLOYING A FULLY GROWN, SEXUALLY LOOKING LADY AS A MAID
She dresses skimpy and sexually looking like an actress, Cat-walk like a model. And that is the kind of person you want to employ as a maid.
A day will come she will act drama with your husband because she is fully grown-up and well endowed back and front, very attractive and tantalizing.
12 FIGHTING YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW CARELESSLY
Don’t come in with the intention that all mothers-in-law are bad, it is among the negative things women do in marriage. yours could be a wonderful person indeed. Not all of them are wicked and not all are witches. If you meet a wicked one, apply wisdom. Bear in mind that you will also be a mother-in-law one day.
You may fight your mother-in-law dirty and think you have won the battle especially if she is innocent, you will end up losing. Her son and herself have been mother and child, friends, well-wishers and lovers for years before they married you; maybe before you were even born, how do you think you can win so easily.
She was the first wife of your husband and also the first girlfriend.
Her son cannot divorce her under any circumstances. And she is more experienced than you in matrimonial battles. Yes, I know a wife becomes a priority and number one but some men try to place their mums above their wives.
It is not supposed to be so, it’s stupidity and foolishness to do such. But, if unfortunately, you find yourself in such a manner, you need to apply wisdom and go to God in prayer. And then talk to your husband about it. Apply wisdom because wisdom is the principal thing.
13 TELLING YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE
On no circumstance that the sexual experience of a married couple should be revealed. When you tell your friends about how your husband rocks you, you are indirectly telling them to go and have a feel of him.
They can seize you up and know whether your husband is hot or not, whether he is sexually fulfilled or not.
They may even know your husband’s “turn on” and use it against you then grab him. Most women have carelessly lost their husbands to their friends as they boast to their friends ” my husband is too sexually demanding, he is an expert when it comes to sex, he is a horse and he has horse seize, he almost killed me last night”.
Your friends will pick information like this and cover things up where you have been failing.
14 DON’T ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN TO TAKE THE POSITION OF YOUR HUSBAND
This is one of the mistakes so many women make allowing their children to take the place of their husband, denying him love, care, and other attention as soon as they begin to have babies, they transfer all affection to their kids. In bed, they put the baby in between themselves thereby making the man feel lost and left alone. No more warm hugs, romance, and stories. Children are blessing and fruits of the marriage, they are not meant to divide the man and the wife.
15 TAKING REPORTS TO YOUR HUSBAND’S MUM ALWAYS
People say “monkeys are ugly but their mother loves them” It looks beautiful to report your husband to his mum but the end result will hurt you. Most mothers always support their sons whether good or bad; children are always right before their mothers, seek from the right counselor and from the right quarters on what to do. Never report your husband to his mum always unless such mum is God fearing, honest and impartial in judgment.
16 WRONG APPLICATION OF SEX
Sex is bond and it’s supposed to unify the couple and create intimacy and love, but in many homes, the reverse is the case. Some women do use sex to manipulate marriage. Some use it for trade by the batter.
Some wives will suddenly become commanders at home when their husbands touch them for sex, they begin to order the man around, “go and off the fan, go and lock the gate then come and meet me, go and check whether the children are sleeping or not, how about that money I requested from you give it to me now” This is very bad and should not exist in marriage.
Some women even wear jeans, knickers to bed to prove no sex, no romance, no erotic stories, and no invitation. If you continue like this, you will hurt your marriage deeply and you may destroy your future as well. You create room for him to go after lusting and chasing sexy and ever willing ladies on the street to give him sex.
And when that starts it takes the grace of God to bring him back.