Marriage is one of the oldest institutions that is as old as the world. The Bible makes it abundantly clear that God instituted Marriage; “The Lord God said, it is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate for him” (Genesis 2:18). When God created Adam and began to see him alone without any companionship, He knew that Adam needed a helpmate. God then created a woman to fulfill that purpose.
It is important to note that God deliberately created only one woman for Adam as his wife. Even after they rebelled against God that brought their Fall, Adam was still married to Eve. God, hereby laid the foundation and designed the proper pattern of marriage to be followed. Therefore, people should Cleve to this pattern and avoid the various perverted forms of marriage in our world today.
In Book of Genesis 2:24, the bible says that for the purpose of marriage, a man must “leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.” Here, God intends that marriage should be a monogamous and permanent relationship.
Also, marriage should be between a man and a woman.
Note, not between a man and a man or a woman and a woman, as the world is practicing today.
A PERMANENT RELATIONSHIP
Marriage should be a permanent partnership and relationship, which is to be enjoyed and not endured. It is a lifetime union till death do you part. God expects a Godly marriage between the man and his wife to be fitly joined together in the same manner the physical human body is joined with the head.
As a woman, the moment you are married you are permanently joined together with your husband. The two of you become one flesh by the covenant of holy matrimony and only death can separate the union.
In Ephesians 5:22, God positioned the husband as the head of the home, just as Christ is the head of the church: “wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Savior of the body”
Just as the head protects, thinks and plans for the body, so also should the husband do for his wife and family. Just as the body can not function properly when there is a problem in the head, so the wife cannot function perfectly without a good husband. A good wife and a faithful husband are from the Lord (Proverb 18:22).
Although Adam did not have a marriage counselor, yet he stayed with his wife throughout their lifetime. From the day God brought her to him, he recognized his wife as the flesh of his flesh and the bone of his born.
Although selfishness and greed have led to marriage failures, it is never the plan of God for you to get stuck in a disastrous marriage. God desires that you have a happy and fulfilling marriage. One of the ways to avoid this calamity in a Christian marriage is not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever in marriage (2 Corinthians 6: 14-18).
God also wants spouses to have an intimate relationship. As a couple, you must love and build your home together. In practical terms, God expects the couple to be one flesh.
THE SYMBOLIC MYSTERY BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH; BETWEEN THE HUSBAND AND THE WIFE
Paul draws the symbolic mystery of Christ and the church and illustrates that this kind of relationship should exist between a husband and his wife. It is God’s desire that every couple should pattern and model their relationship after this representation. Your marriage should reflect and represent the relationship that exists between Christ and the church. The relationship between Christ and the church is forever and can not be broken, this must be the standard for every marriage. This great mystery must be practicable in a Godly marriage.
We will consider the seven active verbs Paul used to describe the relationship between Christ and the church which we must adopt in our marriage if we want it to be similar to that of Christ.
1 Love (Ephesians 5:25,28; John 13:1); You must love each other, as a couple. When true love exists between a husband and his wife, it will be very easy to forgive and live in peace and harmony.
2 Leave (5:31; Psalm 45:10-11): Before your marriage, there was a strong relationship between you and your parents. But after your marriage, you must leave your parents so that you can properly bond with your partner.
3 Cleave (Ephesians 5:31; Genesis 2:24-25); After your marriage, you must stick to your spouse, irrespective of whatever that comes up in the marriage.
4 Nourish (Ephesians 5:29; 1 Timothy 4:6); As a couple, you must speak to each other words of encouragement and uplifting. You must nourish each other emotionally, Physically, psychologically and socially.
5 Cherish (Ephesians 5:29; 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8); Couple must cherish each other just as Christ cherishes the church. You must show that you cherish each other in your approach to issues. You cherish each other by your attitude and manner of behavior. Let your partner know that they are precious to you. Treasure each other.
6 Submit (Ephesians 5:21-22); Submission is vital in a marriage. As a couple, submit to each other no matter who is right or wrong. This does not represent weakness but you proved to love each other and make your marriage work.
7 Reverence (Ephesians 5:33); Speak respectfully to your spouse, especially in the presence of your children, relatives, and family members. You must respect each other as a couple everywhere and every time. Embarrassing each other in the public is uncharitable for Christian couple.